We implemented a technique while recording this week that we discuss in this podcast on productivity and we recorded at naptime. We typically record at night when our children are sleeping but because we have a "plan B" for finishing our work, we could be flexible. In other words, you'll hear a few child noises in the background.
The first step to outlining your schedule is lining up with the Bible and your family needs. It's not enough to cross items off a list. You want to cross the right items off your list.
We both prefer the word "queen" over "princess"; there's an implied maturity difference between the two. This week, we take on why the Christian "I'm God's Princess" mentality often leads to behavior as bratty as Jasmine's in Aladdin. Then we offer a few suggestions to move from a self-centered focus on life to a God-centered focus.
We wanted to point out that preparing for marriage looks a lot like preparing for adulthood. Younger females, especially in Christian circles, tend to idolize marriage and it is not the end-all, be-all of life. Work toward being a well-rounded Christian woman and you'll be on your way to developing the skills to be a good wife.
This week we are talking about why you should read your Bible. Devotionals can be helpful and have their place but nothing replaces opening God's Word for yourself. We are going to walk through Psalm 19:7-11 in this episode so get out your Bible if you want to follow along.
This week we are discussing how to thrive regardless of where you are in your life journey. You don't always get to pick where you are and yet it's important that you show up.
Last week we discussed how college benefited our lives as mamas and that naturally transitions into how to work from home as a mama. We both do different types of work from our homes so that we can be home with our child(ren). These principles don't just apply to paid jobs; you can use the same methods to pursue a side hustle, volunteer, or serve in ministry.
We are both stay at home (or more accurately work at home) mamas. And yet we both have college degrees that we spent time and money pursuing and neither of us feel that was wasted. Why? That's what we're delving into this week. If all you want to be is a wife and mom, why should you consider college?
This week we are tackling the topic of fear. We discuss why fear is a faith issue, doing things scared, how your personality type affects your reaction to fear, and how pride is connected to fear. And, of course, we wrap it up with some practical suggestions to help you live fearlessly.
To celebrate our 50th episode we are running a giveaway! Head over to iTunes before next Thursday and leave the podcast a rating and review to be entered to win.
We have been thrilled with the feedback from the sex series! This week we are wrapping it up with some listener Q+A. You all sent us some great questions about sex and sex-related issues. If you have enjoyed this series, leave us a rating and review in iTunes and share the podcast with a friend!
We went all out for this episode. We received a bunch of questions about birth control so we went for it. No answers but lots of options and honest discussion about how we chose what we do. Neither of us have a problem with preventing pregnancy so if you do and you're fine with your decision, just skip this episode.
Also: probably shouldn't listen with your kids!
1. Attitude: To start a discussion about birth control is to start a discussion about who's plans matter more, ours or God's? We always want to align our hearts with God's values and priorities.
2. Types of birth control: We list multiple options of birth control.
3. Personal Testimonies, er, stories? Anyways, we chat about what we've each done for birth control.
Resources: Woman Code by Alisa Vitti
As we continue the sex series, we wanted to discuss how to establish boundaries in dating and why it's important to do so. There are so many questions about what's ok and what's not ok and how you actually live out your standards. In this episode we go over five thoughts on pursuing purity.
This week we are covering the last two of our five myths about sex. (Go back and listen to last week's episode if you haven't!) Then we move into a discussion about sex in marriage.
Myths 4 and 5
Myth 4: Babies ruin your sex life.
Myth 5: Married sex is boring.
Marriage and Sex
Guidelines for what's "not okay" even in marriage.
You can't believe what Hollywood and secular sources have to say about something that God designed when they aren't using it the way that He intended.
This week we are starting our discussion about sex because, for the most part, the world talks about sex and no one else does. There should be a Christian message about sex because God designed it.
God's design for sex:
We're coming back next week with two more myths but the major thought is that how you think about sex matters. If your sexuality is a burden as a single person, sex becomes a burden after marriage. If your sexuality is something to flaunt then it ceases to be precious and private.
Resources:
We're both big believers in what's now known as the "side hustle." Phy's was a source of fulfillment while she worked an unfulfilling job and Lisa has blogged since her oldest son was almost one. But side hustles can be a lot of different things and sometimes you can convince yourself you don't have time for one. (Hint: you probably do.)
Grow as a person and you'll be a better wife, mom, sister, daughter, and employee.
This week we are talking about ten of our favorite things! Our typical topics are serious and somewhat heavy so we like to throw in some fun conversations occasionally so you can get to know us and we can get your feedback on the questions and know you better too. So ten of our favorites in random categories.
Favorite Podcast
Favorite Book (of the moment)
Favorite Date Experience
Favorite TV Show:
Favorite Songs:
Favorite Food
Favorite Clothing Item
Favorite Drink
Favorite Theological Resources
Favorite Morning Activity
This week we're talking about myths of motherhood. Not all of them- we narrowed it down to four to discuss in this episode. Motherhood gets an unbalanced portrayal in our culture and we try to add some balance from our experience and what we've learned from other women.
Motherhood might be harder than you think but it can also be better than you might think.
Resources:
This week we are talking about the ways we speak truth over ourselves instead of just believing the first thing we think. We're going to use the word "affirmations" but don't get all worked up, we're only talking about our own special phrases that we use to keep ourselves in line.
Whether it's a sin issue or a practical matter, failure is inevitable. It's what you do with it that matters. Failure affects everyone and we are discussing how to handle failure in this week's episode.
Every woman struggles with insecurity in some area of her life. In this week's episode we discuss areas where we feel insecure and how we tackle gaining confidence in a world of body culture and Pinterest perfection. Confidence is something you can have- and not because you are the best at anything.
In this episode we break down:
Resource: Loving God with All Your Mind by Elizabeth George
Emotional self control is a little discussed facet of being a strong woman. Being able to boss yourself around instead of being led by how you feel will make you a more joyful woman and allow you to better serve those around you. But how do you start this? It's a process and we're going to break it down for you.
First three facts about emotions:
Then three practical steps for being in charge of your emotions:
Bible References:
Jeremiah 17:9
Proverbs 16:32
Proverbs 25:28
Ephesians 3:16
Psalm 138:3
Listener Sierra asked us how we choose contentment in daily life. We decided to record an entire episode because every woman struggles with contentment at some point.
We discuss what contentment is and why you don't arrive at contentment. Instead it's a battle you'll fight every day. Then we give five practical steps to help you choose contentment.
This week Phylicia and I are talking about breaking the victim mindset: that belief that your happiness depends on other people. We talk about how to know if you have a victim mindset- and most of us do about something- and discuss three ways to correct your victim mindset.
This week we're talking about how we push our men away and what we can do to fix it! We discuss three ways we often unintentionally drive our men away from us and offer suggestions of ways to bring them back.
This week we're discussing how to deal with interruptions. Whether it's colleagues at the office, emails during your work time, or children when you're cooking lunch, we are constantly interrupted. And these interruptions are the perfect time to extend the grace of God to the people that surround- and bother- us.
In this episode we discuss three different types of interruptions and a few ideas for handling them with grace.
This week we're talking about filling up when you're running on empty. How can you fill back up in order to give to others? We discuss filling up spiritually, emotionally, and relationally and how to add small things to your routine to cheer yourself up.